Self-Directing... Steps Toward Being Smart And Involved! (6-6)

Love Ladder
Everyone needs a certain person, place, or thing, to get them through the day. As a child we begin this process by idolizing something that we are fond of. Either way, we need to be smart and think about what is important to us. The following will explain the main goals of this ladder.
We first need to be in touch with ourselves. This gives a grasp of self belonging… and worth to achieve in certain situations. When we know who we are, then we can set to achieve what we wish.

Second, we idolize who gave us nourishment. We believe we can’t survive without this person so we feel that a great debt is owed to him or her.

Third, we idolize the entertainer. We are fond of a little fun now and again so then we feel that he or she is worth keeping around.

Fourth, we idolize an older person in the family. The reason being is that we admire the qualities in that person and want to be like that person. We want those qualities in ourselves!

Fifth, we idolize a celebrity. This is a person with talents beyond our grasp. This is why we ascertain to be better.

Sixth, as we grow up and start going to school we bond with those that are of the same sex. We consider them to be like-minded individuals… so we have fun with them as well.

Seventh, repeating step six we define who we are with the opposite sex. They do things that we can’t so we work to find out how to cope with that.

The last two steps are defined by the love of another. As we mature we find “the one.” This person shows us who we are, as well as how to care for the world. When we lose that person… another will come. Using past experiences we better ourselves for the next adventure.
Skipping several steps means disaster! We must find who we are and what we want before we are truly ready for what we may face!

Best to all, -John Ott

P.S. "Happy people" are smart people!